See also:  Group Coaching

Partnership is so much more than a type of relationship. It’s also a mindset and a way of understanding oneself relative to others — that we are all connected, and what affects one, affects all.

Conventional culture leads us to view life not as a partnership but as a competition between disconnected individuals. This worldview affects even our most intimate relationships, undermining the abundant connection we experience when we view life through the lens of partnership.

The goal of Partnership Coaching is to reclaim that abundance by developing advanced partnership skills that you can apply to any relationship or community you belong to:

• Family (spouses, children, parents, siblings, in-laws, etc.)
• Close Friends
• Workplace Teams
• Learning Communities
• Intentional Communities

You decide which partnership(s) you want to focus on, and I will give you tools and insights for navigating whatever challenges you’re facing, so you’ll develop your partnership superpowers while improving your actual partnerships. My job is to make sure you leave each session feeling empowered and equipped to improve the quality of all your partnerships.

The enduring benefits of Partnership Coaching include increased creativity, courage, purpose, inner peace, love, freedom, and FUN!  And if your career work involves coaching, I can help you learn Partnership Coaching skills to extend these benefits to those you serve.

Coaching for Parents

For more than two decades, I’ve been teaching growth-oriented parents the art of Partnership Parenting:  creating joyful, mutually empowering parent-child partnerships without the usual assortment of punishments, rewards, self-sacrifice, and other control tactics.

I also have extensive experience supporting parents of self-directed learners, a.k.a. unschoolers, as self-directed education complements Partnership Parenting especially well for many families, and unschooling was my own kids’ educational path when they were “school age.”

Our natural desire to give our children a good start in life is a powerful catalyst for personal growth, because we can’t give what we don’t have. Our kids need us to demonstrate successful maturation, not merely talk about it. In parenting, more than any other stage of life, we are driven to become our best selves. I’ll help you harness that drive so you can develop your full potential. This sets the stage for being of service and making a difference well beyond parenthood.

If your goal is merely to change your child’s “problem behavior,” you probably won’t enjoy working with me. Partnership Parenting doesn’t work when parents are too attached to behavioral outcomes. With me as your coach, you’ll learn that any behavior can give you insights into your child’s needs — and your own needs — and you can use those insights to make your partnership stronger. Behavior will improve as a result, but your wonderful parent-child partnership will be the true reward.

Parents who benefit most from working with me are often those who know clearly what they don’t want their parenting to look like, and they have a general sense of the partnership values they do want to enact, but they need support and guidance to embody those values and enact their vision.

My parenting-focused clients tend to have non-mainstream views and interests like...

• Conscious, holistic, nonviolent, noncoercive, natural parenting
• The Continuum Concept or attachment parenting
• Nutrition and alternative health paradigms
• Unschooling or alternative education
• Unconventional lifestyles and creative pursuits
• Parenting as a spiritual practice

In my circles, thinking outside the box is the norm, and you can be confident that I won’t judge you for being “weird” — even if you and I are weird in different ways!

Coaching FAQ

What’s your coaching background? — My “About” page describes my path to coaching, as do some of the articles and videos posted here.

Can anyone hire you for coaching? — I work with a diverse range of people from all walks of life, including individuals, couples/partners, and small groups.

• I generally don’t work with minors, though I have made a few exceptions. (I teach parents how to coach their own kids instead of working directly with their kids.)
• I have worked with people from many different countries. Anyone who understands and speaks English fluently can work with me.
• All religions are welcome. I consider myself to be “spiritual but not religious,” and my coaching is easy to integrate with any religion that is love-based.
• Anyone who condones cancel culture From Wikipedia: Cancel culture is a modern form of ostracism in which someone is thrust out of social or professional circles — whether it be online, on social media, or in person. Those who are subject to this ostracism are said to have been “cancelled.” is sure to find me “problematic” and will likely be happier with a different coach.
• As far as I’m concerned, every person is a minority of one.  Black, white, gay, straight, left, right, spaces, tabs, potayto, potahto... I don’t focus on clients’ superficial identities; I’m interested in Who You Really Are.

How do we meet for sessions? — We meet “virtually,” usually by telephone or Skype for audio sessions, with Zoom or Skype for video sessions.

Can we meet in person? — My home office is not set up for in-person meetings, but I have met clients in person when traveling, e.g., if I’m speaking at a conference that you are attending.

How many sessions do I need? — If your goal is to work through a specific challenge, one or two sessions may be all you need. To develop partnership skills that you can adapt to any challenge, I recommend ongoing weekly or bi-weekly sessions for at least three months. Many of my clients start with one or two, and later decide to have regular/ongoing sessions. Regulars who feel confident in the skills they’ve developed can reduce the frequency of sessions or shift to scheduling sessions on an “as needed” basis.

How long is each session? — Most sessions are scheduled for a full hour, although shorter sessions are possible. I prefer to end each session at a natural stopping point, even if it goes past the scheduled ending time. (You will not be charged for any such extra time.)

What are your coaching session rates? — My fee for a one-hour session is $100 (USD), with reduced rates available for ongoing/weekly sessions, for shorter sessions, and for low-income clients.

How do I pay for sessions? — I accept all major credit/debit cards through my secure payment page. Alternatively, you can simply give me your credit card details during your session. Payments are made at the end of each session, and prepayment for multiple sessions in advance is an option for those who prefer the convenience.

What about refunds? — My goal is to deliver a truly valuable service that improves your quality of life. If you’re not satisfied with a session, I won’t even charge the fee. Even if you change your mind after you’ve paid, you can request a refund within 30 days of payment and it will be granted, unconditionally.

How to Schedule a Session

The best way to get started is simply to reach out by email or phone (voice or text), and let me know what days and times work best for you.

Feel free to call me without an appointment — to discuss coaching options, set an appointment, or even start an unscheduled session immediately. I spend a lot of time doing “interruptible” work like writing and research, so don’t hesitate to call during my work hours. (If I’m not interruptible you’ll get my voicemail.)

If you feel inspired to unleash the power of partnership in your life, with my support, I’d be honored to serve you.

~ Scott Noelle